Bored, horny or simply curious? If you’re experimenting with self-pleasure or your sex life is stuck in a rut, either way now is a great time to invite sex toys for women into the bedroom.
If you're still on the fence, sex toys come with a number of mind-body benefits for both solo masturbation and partnered sex including stress relief, relationship bonding, improved self-esteem and fun!
Keep scrolling for a brief history of sex toys for women, plus our pick of the best vibrators, clitoral stimulators and butt plugs to shop now.
Best sex toys for women to shop now
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The benefits of sex toys for women
If you’ve never double clicked your mouse before, let's get one thing straight: masturbation is perfectly normal, it's good for your health and everyone does it. 'Masturbation can offer women the opportunity to get to know and explore their bodies in their own time and under their own control,' says sex and relationship psychotherapist, Kate Moyle.
Having said that, if you’re a newbie then shopping for sex toys might be intimidating. Would you prefer a whisper-quiet bullet, a mains-powered vibrator, or something in between? And what’s the best sex toy for women to guarantee an orgasm (or three)? If you're experimenting for the very first time or looking to shake up your usual routine, you’ve come to the right place.
Help choosing the best sex toys for women
Here at WH we want to help you make an informed decision about when and how you shop, because sex is good for your health! But with so many gadgets to choose from, it can be tricky to know where to begin. 'Have a look at a sex toy website and see what style you are interested in and drawn to,' suggests Moyle. 'It may sound simple but things like colour or shape can impact how relaxed and happy you feel.'
To help you narrow it down, we’ve outlined the 11 most popular types of sex toys for women to use alone or with a partner, including vibrators, clitoral stimulators and dildos for women, plus our pick of the best versions of each one. Just don't forget the lube...
1. The bullet
If you’re new to sex toys and looking for something discreet to pop in your bedside drawer, The Whisperer from Smile Makers is a great place to start. This deceptively powerful lipstick vibrator is super quiet and comes with three speeds and two pulsation modes to help you find the buzz that fits. Plus it's waterproof, so you can turn showering into a world of pleasure. But best of all it looks just like a lipstick, so no one will be any the wiser!
'Start on the gentlest, slowest setting and build up from there,' suggests Moyle. 'Bigger isn't always better in this instance — especially if you are using a toy for the first time.' If bullet sex toys are your bag, we're also big fans of the Mia 2 from our fave Swedish brand Lelo.
2. The magic wand vibrator
The next stop on the sex toy train is the magic wand. First marketed as a body massager by the Japanese company Hitachi back in 1968, horny housewives discovered its ulterior motives and a love story was born. Fast-forward to 2023 and most adult brands sell a version of the classic device. But what sets it apart from other sex toys for women? Aside from the simplicity of the knobbly-headed design, it delivers a rumbling vibration which some women liken to sexual ecstasy. Ricky's Ultimate Wand Massager Vibrator comes with 20 pleasure settings, plus it's double ended so you can flip it for precise clitoral stimulation versus G-spot play. It's so good, our editor credits this sex toy with saving her marriage. You can thank us later.
3. Clitoral stimulators
In a bid to replicate the feeling of authentic cunnilingus, sex-tech engineers have been busy in the lab, and a number of brands have launched some rather convincing clitoral-targeted gadgets. Berlin-based wellness brand Womanizer’s version of simulated oral sex has been coined ‘pleasure air’ technology (while Lelo calls it a ‘sonic massager’) and the pop star, actress, and now sex toy entrepreneur Lily Allen has given it her stamp of approval. The Liberty is best described as a heady combination of pulsating airwaves mixed with six levels of vibration, and my goodness me it delivers the intended results.
4. The rabbit vibrator
The Rabbit first burst onto the scene in the mid-1990s, popularised by its appearance in the hit TV show Sex and the City. If you haven’t seen the series, the gadget is essentially a rotating phallus that comes with movable rabbit ears designed to simultaneously penetrate you like a penis and stimulate your clit, rendering boyfriends instantly redundant. In the past 15 years the rabbit has undergone a renaissance and now you can buy pretty much every sex toy for women with bunny ears. But we are rather fond of the classic Lovehoney Dream Rabbit because it thrusts too!
5. G-spot stimulators
The G-spot is an internal erogenous zone credited with delivering vaginal orgasms. However, it is notoriously tricky for women to climax through penetrative sex alone (according to studies, only 18% of vagina-owners achieve this). But for some lucky women, the G-spot is said to deliver arousal, orgasms and even ejaculation. If G-spot play is your bag, or you’re simply curious, let us introduce you to the Gigi. This whisper-quiet vibrator made from soft silicone comes with a curved and ﬂattened tip designed to accurately target your G-spot. With eight different vibration patterns and a two-hour battery life, Gigi is the tool for the job. Or to double-up, try this G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulator that sex toy for women will tick all of your pleasure boxes.
6. Vibrating cock ring
If you struggle to climax during penetrative sex, it’s definitely worth investing in a couple’s toy. To get started, this vibrating cock ring complete with clit stimulation bunny ears will be just the ticket. Simply slip it onto your partner’s erect member, jump onboard and let the ears buzz you to ecstasy. And for him, the tight grip of the ring can make him harder and more aroused, plus the sight of you enjoying yourself is guaranteed to be a major turn on.
7. Love eggs
Love eggs, also known as Ben Wa or kegel balls, originated in Asia and have been used for centuries to strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles and ramp up your sex life in the process. They usually consist of two balls connected by a thread for easy removal. Love eggs work by creating an oscillating vibration as you move which some women find very pleasurable, but you can buy battery powered balls too. Yoni eggs differ as they tend to be made from solid stone or crystal minerals. We're partial to this remote control vibrating love egg because you can use it everywhere...
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to sex toys, but dildos for women are usually phallic shaped shlongs that don’t always require batteries. Intended for penetration during masturbation or partnered sex, purists who aren’t keen on synthetic vibrations but still like the idea of penetrative sex will enjoy the feeling. And now you can design your own! Head over to Godemiche for curved silicone dildos that are nothing short of exquisite. We went for turquoise blue with extra sparkle. For a really smooth ride, this Lovehoney Glass Dildo is pretty fabulous too.
If you enjoy a bit of power-play and you’d like to wear the trousers for a change, a strap-on might be right up your street. Known as pegging, performing anal sex on your penis-having partner using a wearable dildo can lead to explosive orgasms for him, while you can get a kick from the power exchange. Bend over baby, we’re going in! And for lesbians or vagina-havers who like penetrative sex, you can infiltrate your lover’s orifices and your own at the same time by using a double-ended dildo. We like this Tracy Cox version.
10. App-controlled sex toys
Sex toys for women are becoming more advanced by the minute and now thanks to Bluetooth technology you don’t even need to be on the same continent as your lover to make them climax. Using your smartphone, you can control the settings and programs that direct your lover's sexual enjoyment from anywhere in the world. We’re big fans of the Lovense Lush 3 wearable vibrator as it comes with five hours of continuous use per charge.
11. Butt plugs
Legend has it that back in the late 1800s, butt plugs were prescribed as a 'miracle cure' for everything from insomnia to halitosis for ailing Americans. Given the harsh sodomy laws of the time, it's a wonder anyone could sleep. Thankfully anal play has since entered the mainstream and people are free to experiment both here and across the pond. If you're on the fence, it's worth knowing that your ass comes with thousands of nerve endings that can lead to seriously powerful orgasms. We particularly like this Jewelled Heart Metal Butt Plug because it sparkles. Don't forget to use plenty of lube.