Chances are that you already have a trusty vibrator you reach for on the regular.
But if your bedroom bestie isn't a remote control model or one of the latest Wi-Fi sex toys, it's time to at least try adding one to your collection. (Trust me—you'll probably enjoy experimenting.)
Remote, Bluetooth, WiFi, or app-control vibrators give you way more control than most manual options allow. Some of them even work when the toy and remote or app are miles, countries, or oceans apart. They're a great way to spice up a long distance relationship (or situationship, and everything in between).
If your vibrator's just not hitting the spot, you can easily change its settings without pausing and having to get back into the groove.
"Remote control vibrators allow you or a partner to adjust the speed and settings without reaching down between your legs," says sex educator Jess O’Reilly, host of the @SexWithDrJess podcast.
Peep a few of the best remote control vibrators, below:
But word to the wise: Try testing these solo before introducing them to your partner. It never hurts to spend as much time as you can getting to know your body. In fact, it can really be an act of self love and care.
"Knowing where you enjoy and how you enjoy being touched can save a lot of time and effort with a new or current lover," says Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of OrganicLoven.com.
Ready to press play (and sooo many other buttons)? These 18 best remote-control vibrators will deliver pleasure right to your door:
1.Most Versatile Remote Control Vibrator: Zalo G-Spot Vibrator
This app-controlled sex toy set vibrates, warms and pulses, and you can control just how much with over 64 combinations of those functions. Each use will make you feel like you're getting to know a brand new toy. In the set, you get one vibrator with a sleeve over it—use it with or without the sleeve depending on how large of a surface area you want to stimulate.
2. Bestselling Remote Control Vibrator: Lelo Tiani 3
Lelo’s Tiani is a bestseller, and it’s easy to see why. This couples sex toy features an arm that vibrates inside you, while another massages your clitoris. It sends out vibes that’ll enhance sensations for your partner, too. Control the action with a motion-sensing remote that adjusts the intensity with a flick of your wrist.
3. Most Flexible Remote Control Panty Vibrator: Mantric Panty Vibrator
Don’t let this panty vibe’s size fool you: While it’s just three inches long, it delivers plenty of power with three speeds and seven vibrations. Mantric is covered in smooth silicone and discretely slips into your underwear. Pass your partner the remote and let them go to work.
4. Best Remote Control Cock Ring: Happy Rabbit Cock Ring
This ring has a li'l something for you and your partner. Simply slip it onto their erect penis, choose from 30 different vibrations (not a typo), and do what you do best. The rabbit ears will give you a nice clitoral massage in the process.
5. Most Classic Remote-Control Vibrator: We-Vibe Unite 2
Give your clit the love it deserves with this remote-controlled vibrator. It comes with nine vibration patterns you can use for some next-level fun.
6. Best Dual-Purpose Remote Control Vibrator: Venus Butterfly
This find is fun on its own, but you can also bring it to your next sex sesh with a partner to really unlock its full potential. When you're on your own, allow it to simultaneously stimulate your clitoris and g-spot, and when you're not, send the vibrations straight to your partner's shaft and testicles while it's penetrating you.
7. Best Remote Control Prostate Massager: Lelo Hugo
If your partner has a penis, consider switching things up and giving this vibrator a go. It's designed to stimulate the prostate, a major source of pleasure for him. It offers several vibration modes and two different internal vibrators to suit whatever gets them going, all controlled by a wireless remote. Not to mention, it's totally waterproof. The possibilities are endless...
8. Best Remote Control Bullet Vibrator: Lovesense Lush 3
This Bluetooth vibrator makes it easy for your partner to control from just about anywhere, but the super quiet ~vibes~ will keep your secret safe. Moans of pleasure are another story, tho.
9. Most Discreet Remote Control Vibrator: Rechargable Bullet
Beware: In the right hands, this remote and app-controlled bullet vibrator can deliver explosive pleasure. It packs 36 patterns of waves and levels of adjustable intensity. Use it at home or discreetly wear it while you're out.
10. Best Remote Control Vibrator For Couples: We-Vibe Match
Any We-Vibe is a couples favorite for a reason: You can control it manually or use the wireless remote controller. "I like the We-Vibe because you can program it to vibrate according to your preferred rhythm," says O’Reilly. Plus, it's "whisper quiet" so you don't have to worry about disturbing any, ahem, roommates.
11. Best Remote Control Panty Vibrator: Leaf Spirit Plus
This panty vibrator has seven settings, all of which are quiet enough to be whisper-quiet. The question is: Can you be discreet in public?
12. Best Remote Control Panty Vibrator For Beginners: We-Vibe Moxie
"Since its introduction, we’ve had a hard time keeping this vibe in stock!" says Amy Boyajian, cofounder of online sexual wellness shop Wild Flower. "The Moxie is small, quiet, and discreet—yet powerful. It works by using a magnet to keep it in place on your underwear or clothing and the app [allows for] control on your phone." How fun!
13. Best Remote Control Panty Set: My Secret Remote Vibrator
Try not to let the skimpiness of these wearable vibrator undies discourage you: You can put the mini toy in the crotch of any pair of panties, then slide the remote-control ring on your finger—or hand it off to your partner.
14. Best Remote-Control Internal Vibrator: Lelo Lyla 2
Insert this "love egg" into your vagina, and use the remote to put it to work. Or you could massage the vibrating egg around your lady bits for serious clitoral stimulation, like a trusty bullet.
15. Most High-Tech Remote Control Vibrator: Elva Bullet
You don't need to choose between external or internal pleasure with this waterproof, remote-controlled bullet vibrator that's perfect for both. And if you want to lay back and let this little device do the work, turn on the vibrator's "intelligent mode." It'll take you through a series of multiple intensity levels, in case you want to mimic the real thing.
16. Best Dual Remote Control Vibrator: We-Vibe Nova 2
If you haven't tried a G-spot and clitoral-stimulating dual vibrator, you're missing out. Unlike traditional vibrators, this one bends at various angles to pleasure anyone's anatomy, just the way you like it. Plus, just like many of We-Vibe's vibrators, it can easily be controlled by the app you connect it to.
17. Best Remote Control Butt Plug: b-Vibe Butt Plug
Want to experiment with anal play? Look no further than this remote control sex toy, which has a rotating-bead feature to create a rimming sensation that feels (kinda) like the real thing. Give control to your partner, or—since this is your butt, after all—speed the vibration up slowly on your own. Just remember: use lube.
18. Best Remote Control Suction Vibrator: Suction Vibrating Dildo
This vibrating dildo allows for handheld or suction-cup-assisted play, making penetrative solo sex easier. "It can also be a great addition to partnered or group sex," says Boyajian. The ridges feel great internally, too—just steer clear if this one if you're particularly sensitive.
What are the benefits of remote control vibrators?
1. You can excite your partner at unexpected moments, and vice versa.
Whether you decide to tease your S.O. by fooling around with the remote when you're in a group setting or during date night, starting the evening with some hands-free foreplay will undoubtedly lead to a sex session later. "The element of surprise is an amazing addition to the bedroom, but it can be difficult to achieve without this feature," says Dominique Karetsos, resident sex expert at vibrator brand MysteryVibe.
2. They're clutch for long-distance couples.
Hot tip: You don’t even have to be in the same place as your partner when you use one of these babies—a handy hands-free feature, no? "Some app-enabled vibrators allow you to play with someone who is in another room or even on another continent," O’Reilly says. (Game. Changer.)
3. It can help you try new positions—with O-mazing results.
Oh, and last but not least? In certain sex positions, accessing manual buttons on a vibrator can be annoyingly difficult. "The ability to operate a vibrator remotely allows you to try more experimental positions while still experiencing maximum pleasure," Karetsos explains. Three cheers for technology!
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