131 Interesting Questions To Ask Your Crush

Crushes are fun... and terrifying. Yeah, it's totally normal if speaking with your crush makes you super nervous, or if you kind of just lose your words when you're *trying* to get to know them better. But hey, don't worry, that's where's this list of 131 questions to ask your crush, all recommended by experts on sex, love, and intimacy, comes in!

"Vulnerability fosters intimacy," says Shan Boodram, a certified sexologist, intimacy educator, and Kentucky-based sex expert. "It can create a feeling of love between people who otherwise don’t know each other, even within one conversation." That's why Boodram recommends staying away from small talk, and instead, divulging personal details to keep the conversation deep.

Plus, these questions can show whether this crush is actually right for you, she explains. "When you ask questions, you reveal things about your values, morals, lifestyles, long-term goals, short-term goals, and more," she says. "These are all pieces of information that show whether this person is crush-worthy for you." Noted!

Meet the Experts:
Shan Boodram is a certified sexologist, intimacy educator, and sex expert in Los Angeles, California.

Shannon Chavez, PsyD, CST, is a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist in Beverly Hills, California.

Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, CPLC, is a relationship scientist, a marriage and family therapist, and the author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love.

Now that you know exactly why getting to know your crush is super important, it's time to take the plunge past platonic with these 131 questions to ask your crush:

When You’re Breaking The Ice

Putting yourself out there can be a somewhat awkward thing to do. But if you throw lighthearted questions into the mix, you give your crush (and yourself) a chance to loosen up a bit. You won’t feel the pressure that comes with heavy-hitting questions, and you might find things you have in common. (Score!)

“These are the easy questions that most people will feel comfortable answering, and will allow you to establish a rapport,” says Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, CPLC, a relationship scientist, marriage and family therapist, and author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love. “These can be fun, creative, and flirty.”

1. Where are you from?

2. What do you do for work?

3. Do you have a favorite animal?

4. Do you have or want any pets?

5. How would you describe your style?

6. What’s your favorite food?

7. What is your favorite book?

8. What is your favorite season?

9. What would you do if you won the lottery?

10. Where would you go right now if you had a plane ticket?

11. If you could have a superpower, what would it be?

12. What was the first concert you attended?

13. What was your dream job as a child?

14. Do you have any siblings?

15. What’s your favorite genre of music and why?

16. Do you like sports? If so, what’s your favorite?

17. What is your favorite animated movie and why?

18. What is your favorite movie of all time and why?

19. What is your favorite TV show and why?

20. What does your ideal weekend look like?

21. Where did you grow up?

22. Do you like cooking for yourself and others?

23. What's your favorite restaurant and why?

24. If you could be a celebrity, would you and why?

25. Do you ever take part in any community service?

26. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

27. What's your favorite pastime?

28. What's the most incredible thing you've ever eaten?

29. What's one thing that you never get bored of doing?

30. What's your favorite vacation spot? Why?

31. Are you a morning person or a night owl?

32. What movie best describes your life?

33. Who is your celebrity crush?

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When You’re Getting To Know Them

After you’ve skimmed the surface, these questions are perfect for getting to know someone’s unique quirks, dreams, and values. “[They’ll] enable you to create a map of who they are as a person,” says Cohen. They’re a little more personal than what you’d ask to break the ice, which will show that you’re interested in more than just commonalities.

"I like to ask about memories with crushes or in new relationships," adds Shannon Chavez, a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist in Beverly Hills, California. "Memory evokes positive emotion, a way to see someone’s personality come out a bit more."

33. Who is your dream dinner guest?

34. How many past relationships have you had?

35. Have you ever been engaged or divorced?

36. Who is someone you look up to?

37. What’s something that excites you?

38. What or who inspires you?

39. Who would play you in a movie of your life?

40. What would be the theme song to your life?

41. Are you an introvert or extrovert?

42. What is your Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)?

43. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?

44. What do you do for a living?

45. What is your ideal work-life balance?

46. What is your passion?

47. What's your dream job?

48. Who is your inspiration?

49. What are your hobbies?

50. What do you like to do for fun?

51. Do you live by yourself?

52. Are you registered to vote?

53. What's your favorite childhood memory?

54. What is your favorite memory?

55. How would your friends describe you?

56. What is your biggest pet peeve?

57. What is your most unique talent?

58. Where do you see yourself in 10 or 20 years?

59. What's the best trip you've ever been on?

60. What's your most embarrassing moment?

When You’re Ready To Ask Them Out

Okay, so you’ve established that this is someone that you *might* want to spend more one-on-one time with. Now, you can start to ask them questions that will make them think critically about their wants and needs, which will help you determine if you want to ask them out and pursue a connection.

“This is important because it enables a person to get a better sense of what their crush is looking for in a relationship, as well as what type of relationship they are looking for—casual, committed, et cetera,” explains Cohen. “This helps you establish if you both want the same things and are on the same page when it comes to partnership.”

61. What are you looking for in a partner?

62. What do you value in a relationship?

63. Are you looking for something serious or casual right now?

64. Are you religious or spiritual in any way?

65. What do you think is your life's purpose?

66. How did your last relationship end?

67. What was your first impression of me?

68. Is there anything you're wondering about me?

69. Do you have any personal milestones?

70. Do you have or want children?

71. Do you want to start a family? If so, when?

72. Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?

73. How do you handle arguments and conflict?

74. What is your communication style?

75. What does a day in your life usually look like?

76. Do you see yourself living in a city or suburb?

When You’re Ready To Go Deeper

Maybe you’re on a date or your crush has agreed to go on a date with you, so you know the connection is mutual. Congratulations! From here, you can dig a little deeper and ask those questions that will really help you develop a connection. "If you have a crush, that means you're fantasizing about who this person really is," Chavez says. Asking them about their hobbies helps you step away from that fantasy and instead gives you a sense of their true self, she adds.

Cohen also notes that you’ll be getting a window into your potential partner's mind, which can help you understand their worldview. You’ll have a better understanding of their values, personality, fears, and more.

77. What is your biggest regret?

78. What are you most insecure about?

79. How do you think people view you versus how you view yourself?

80. If you could relive any day of your life, what would it be?

81. What is your attachment style?

82. Have you ever been cheated on by a partner?

83. If money wasn’t a consideration, what would you be doing?

84. Do you want kids in the future?

85. What is your most controversial opinion?

86. What is the best and worst date you’ve ever been on?

87. What was your first impression of me?

88. How often do you get stressed?

89. What's your relationship like with your extended family?

90. What love languages do you like to give and receive?

91. How would you rank your love languages?

92. What do you think is your life's purpose?

93. What do you consider your greatest success?

94. What's your relationship like with your parents?

95. What’s your relationship like with your siblings?

96. If you could tell your younger self anything, what would it be?

97. Would you consider yourself an honest person?

98. What's the biggest gift you've ever bought yourself?

99. What do you think about defining sexual orientation?

100. What is your greatest accomplishment?

101. What is your biggest fear?

102. What legacy would you like to leave for future generations?

103. Who knows you the best? Why?

104. What values are most important to you?

105. Who are your closest friends? Why?

106. What does trust mean to you?

107. How do you tend to handle conflict?

108. Have you ever cheated on a partner?

109. What do you think you could’ve done better in your last relationship?

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When You’re Ready To Get Sexier

Once you’re a date or two in, you may have some steamy questions on your mind. And perhaps, at this point, the two of you have developed a good foundation of trust and mutual interest. “These questions allow you to build intimacy both physically and emotionally,” explains Cohen. “As you get to know what turns your partner on, not only are you enhancing the physical connection, but you may also be building trust and understanding between the two of you, thereby enhancing the emotional connection.” Sounds like a win-win, right?